Our children don't know why we are separated and he is a great, involved father. I hope his love for his children will bring him back home.Could a 2yr extra marital affair be a serious threat to my 15yr marriage?
Are you serious? I think the fact that he's been banging some other woman for 2 years should tell you what he thinks of your marriage. Yeah I think it's a serious threat to say the very least. Let's be honest here, you have no marriageCould a 2yr extra marital affair be a serious threat to my 15yr marriage?
Damn how did I miss this when it was open?
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Looks like you also still love this man, unfortunately this new realtionship can be a great threat to your 15yr ol old marriage, to him its a change,its something new, refreshing and still fascinating, do you remember how you felt about him when your love was just as new.
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You need to move on, don't let this man think he can come and go when he pleases. And she already has him out of the house, so heck yea shes a threat to your marriage. Just be strong and don't let him run over you. Maybe you should have a date or two and show him you don't have to have him and that other men do find you attractive. Even if you don't go on a date, make him think you did.
That is NOT an affair. That is a relationship. I think you need to be realistic.
And yes, men leave their wives and children, all the time, for another woman. Because he is IN love with her. If he wasn't he wouldn't have continued this for two years.
And I beg the question.......Why would you want a man that would ONLY be with you out of obligation to your children? Have you no pride or self esteem? Maintain your self respect, girl.
I can not, with a conscious, lie to you and just validate something so psychologically damaging to you and your children. You could never trust him. Do you, seriously, want to spent the rest of your life with a man that you will never trust? That is unhealthy. And toxic. You will continually wonder where he is, who he is with, what he is really doing.....everytime he leaves the house.
Rebuild your self esteem. Have faith in yourself. And realize that you do deserve to be truly loved and have a man be devoted to you, as much as you are to him.
And your children are NOT stupid. They know what is going on. Children have a great sense of ';discernment';. So, believe me, they know something is badly wrong. And that is unstable and unhealthy for them too.
If you are strong enough to not care that he had a fling for 2 years, and you will accept him back then I would start by asking him why he chose to bring in another women to fulfill his needs. Maybe the two of you can work out the problems that you have and go from there. Anything is possible.
I personally would kick the chump to the curb, but that is the easy way out (and part of the marriage agreement).
Yes, it is a threat, a huge threat. Blame not only the other woman but your husband. It takes two to tango. And yes, many a man have sacrificed his family for the other woman.
Make sure you have a ';Plan B'; in place for the worst.
Once, in more civilized times, it would have been expected that a man would have a mistress. People understood that marriage was a business deal, of financial benefit to both parties but not involving pleasure. It was a better time.
Sorry to hear this, but if he loved his children the way he should have and if he loved you the way he should have he would never have done this, I wouldn't trust this person as far as I could throw him, just my thoughts here.
We already told you what a silly question this is. Hope you get the answer you want. It has already threatened your marriage, you twit.
Why would you take him back? Have some self-respect for yourself! He can still be involved with the kids and you don't have to be married for that to happen.
He has left you for another woman. Your marriage is not threatened it is over.
I wouldn't hold my breath til your husband comes back if I were you. I think you'd be better off getting a divorce and moving on with your life. Just my opinion.
Noooooooooooooooooo, what ever made you think that?
He loves his kids, he apparently doesn't like you very much though.
Don't hold your breath, and why would you want him back? He needs to be tested for STD's.
Divorce him and move on.
Beat that b**ch with a bat.
la la land...
What do you think, you doughnut?
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