What are lessons men and/or women learn in marriage?

This question is open to singles or married couples. Thanks. And congrats on the married couples, I have heard that marriage is a lot of hard work.What are lessons men and/or women learn in marriage?
How would single people know what lessons married people learn? That doesn't make any sense to me.





One thing I have learned (I could write a book) is the importance of commitment. It's one thing to make your vows on your wedding day. It is an entirely different matter to live that commitment every day of your life. Commitment is hugely important for feeling trust and security with your spouse. It's so important, that where our relationship is concerned, my wife and I have a pact never even to utter the word divorce.What are lessons men and/or women learn in marriage?
The word marriage starts as a mirage , everything looks good and the first few years are fun, but when in a relationship, there are just too many issues that come about. Once the mirage stops and you wake up to reality is when you learn either to make it or break it! A marriage is based on Trust, Care, Concern, Support, Space, Security, Commitment 鈥?the list is endless and everyday you learn something new. If you can learn to keep your marriage as fresh as your first day, be more a friend and less a partner, if you can hold his/her hand and say you love him/her 10 years after your marriage, if he/she is still as bubbly and young after a decade 鈥?you would have learnt the most important lesson of them all 鈥?its unity!





When he/she cries and you feel the pain, when the other laughs and you feel the joy, when you can share the darkest moment 鈥?you know that you have a life!
1. it is hard work


2. i agree that honesty is not as easy as you think --- you can't just be ';honest'; and expect that to be fine....people have feelings and reactions.


3. you have to learn (if you haven't) to take responsibility for your own feelings and actions.


4. do not project/expect your happiness to be dependent completely on the marriage ---- you must keep and nuture your own identity.


5. keeping your own identity and establishing boundaries is difficult
marriage is not hard if you love and respect your


spouse. most people today don't love from the heart. and they let marriage get boring. you can't


do the same old thing day after day are it will get


old and lead to divorce. you all so need to know


what the other one likes and dis likes. because if


you don't then that could be a problem. but the


most thing i have found is keep adventure in your


marriage. do different things. and it will all work out.
Marriage is SUCH hard work so you head right.





I think I have learned to pick my battles better.


And I am a huge believer in not letting the sun go down in an argument. If that becomes routine, it will not end well.
marriage is more than the wedding, you need to work at it and its not about being 50/50 it varies depending on what each of you are going threw at different times of your lives
White lies are cancerous.


Being totally, utterly, completely honest is a lot harder than it sounds.
compromise, patience, understanding, how to get used to annoying habits, responsibility, remembering what to get for shopping etc.
In my first marriage, I had to disagree or argue with her on about everything. Now I'm on my second marriage, and now I just say ';yes dear';.
You learn whatever you are willing to learn. Whether it be respect, patience, how to treat someone, etc.





Some people never learn.
Not to!