Need to help mom get out of an abusive marriage to my father?

She's scared to death of him but doesn't know how to go about divorcing him with him over reacting (which we know he will).. how can i help her i am only in my early twenties.Need to help mom get out of an abusive marriage to my father?
She needs to contact a domestic violence shelter...they will tell her everything she needs to know and they will help her file the paperwork. They can even help with providing her a place to stay for a period of time. The most important thing is your mother's safety. Domestic Violence Shelters are safe and he will not be able to get at her there.Need to help mom get out of an abusive marriage to my father?
Encourage her to be strong and let her know that your there for her.





also find out what it would take to leave, finances, shelters, apts, that's your mother so you should have a pretty idea of her stability or lack of.





let her know that it will only get worse, most of these abusive relationships end in death.





always be there to support her even if she decides to stay, because if she is isolated the abuse most likely will get worst.





help her figure out her first step and read up on abuse so you will get better understanding of what it must be like to be a victim and also what it took or will take for your mom to leave.








hope this helps! my mother was abused by my father, thank god she left him. i know what its like to watch your mother get abused and not be able to do anything about it.
You don't say if you still live at home or not, if you don't then you have your mom come and stay with you.





Alternatively your mom needs to call the police, they will then not only arrest and remove him from the home she gets a restraining order put on him that means he will be thrown in jail if he goes near her or the house.





Alternatively she needs to find a woman's shelter and get out without telling him.





Either way after she has done any one of these things then she files for divorce straight away.





And by the way she can get a restraining order regardless of whether she has him arrested or whether she moves out, I would strongly suggest she does this.
well he is going to be angry no matter what. what she needs to do is pack up her stuff and leave while he is at work. she needs to not tell him where she is going and cut off all contact with him. except for when he is getting divorce papers. but then he will be served by someone else.





if she was trying to stay at the house and kick him out she would have to pack his things take them somewhere, and have him served with a restraining order so he can't even go home.





either way if she leaves or he does she needs to get the restraining order. i was in a very abusive relationship. after we broke up he was threatening to kill me and have people i didn't know come beat me up. when i got the restraining order (2 days after we broke up) he never called me again. he then knew i was serious and he was going to go to jail if he continued to contact me. and she needs your dad to know that she is serious to. i'm sure this has been going on for a long time.
The first %26amp; best thing would be to take a restraining order out on your father. Let your mother do it. She can tell the police of her fear of his abusiveness, %26amp; they WILL issue a restraining order that WILL keep him completely away from her %26amp; allow him NO contact w/her whatsoever. That's where I'd start. Then this w/give her time to think of what she wants to do next. But by getting him away from her, she'll at least be able to think straight %26amp; be able to take her time to do it. This would be my very FIRST PRIORITY. She then could contact an atty. who w/advise her as to just what to do from here on out...Best to the both of you...:)
you need to contact a shelter - I will give you a link - and you can find someone to help protect her and get past this by whatever is needed at the moment, whether a restraining order or a place to hide from him until he gets the idea. Either way, she will be better off getting out as soon as possible!!
Does she have any CLOSE friends she can rely on right now?? If not, then look up for her some woman abuse shelters. She may want to go there. My mother was in this situation also. So I understand. Unfortunatley my mother stayed. Yours doesn't have to. GOOD LUCK!!!!! Support your mom and try to get her to leave.
my mom was married to an abusive P.O.S. in her second marriage and if your mom wants to leave she will move her to your house and have her file for divorce help her all u can don't forget that he's your dad too
She needs to leave. Then she needs to contact a lawyer.





There's nothing you can do. This is between her and your dad.
Call the cops and get a restraining order on him. Show the cops her wounds as proof of evidence.
tell her to get a protective order and file for divorce. if she gets protective order and he violates he will go to jail