How do you overcome the deep intense fear of loneliness? How do you get out of a marriage,when you are scared?

Don't want to hear ';grow a pair';. Want to hear a better positive story.How do you overcome the deep intense fear of loneliness? How do you get out of a marriage,when you are scared?
it's not an easy step. sometimes you really have to remove yourself from the situation mentally to see what you need to do. you might seem cold and cruel, but your happiness needs to come into account. it took me several months to come around and realize what i needed to do, and even then it was the hardest thing i ever had to do. it will get easier, at the same time, it will still hurt like hell. but life will go on.How do you overcome the deep intense fear of loneliness? How do you get out of a marriage,when you are scared?
Usually deep fears of loneliness and of facing life alone come from experiences with abandonment. Therapy can help in this area.To conquer fear you must first face that fear head on with reality. Start by writing down what is the worse that could happen if you were suddenly left alone. Then you face it, and find a solution for each fear. You take it one step at a time. What you do is start building up financial security as a back up plan. Then you learn to live your life that leaves no room for failure. What this means is to live within the law and always learn self discipline. In other words, you make yourself become a person who is dependable and trustworthy and you will slowly learn to depend upon yourself to make the right decisions that come with security. You also need to allow yourself room for error, for to error is human. Learn positive ways to solve your everyday problems, not by avoiding them but by facing them head on to resolution. Get out and do volunteer work that surrounds you with people. Get involved with everyday life. After a while you will be happy and enjoying life as an independent person.. Good luck to you!
You have to have some self-esteem within you. If you feel unworthy of love and respect that's exactly what your going to get out of the world. Keep your head up, get you a new look, and work on becoming independent so that the loneliness that your so scared of actually becomes a choice of you wanting it instead of what the world dishes out to you.
I hope this doesn't come out as grow a pair. I feel your pain. You don't have to leave right away. Just start taking small steps to remember who you once were or who you always wanted to be. I am sure you have either felt strong or always wanted to be. Start by doing good things for strangers. Even if you think it is pointless and has nothing to do with your marriage. You will start to feel more powerful when you see the joy you can bring by helping the little elderly lady put the heavy case of soda into her car. She will smile and thank you. Smile and say ';hi'; as you pass strangers on the street. One day, one of the gloomy faces you greeted with cheer will tell the story about the day they wanted to give up but God spoke to them through the smiling face they passed by on the street. Your smile showed them the light they needed. Don't focus on the marriage per say! Good things come to those who wait. Focus on your happiness. Don't do things that would directly please you, do things to please others. Never expect a thank you for doing a good deed. That would be selfish. Instead do it for the simple reasons. Would you rather be know as the taker or the giver. Give and you will grow stronger! Hope this helps!
Before asking yourself how to get away from a relationship- you should figure out why you want out of it so badly. There was a reason you started it.





If you're lonely, you might want to talk to your significant other. Let them know how you're feeling. If they act as though they could care less, you probably need to take a few days away from them to collect yourself. Spend a day or two at a friends house. Being wrapped up in a bad situation while trying to make a decision never makes the decision making easy.





If all in all, you feel like you need to get out of your relationship- the best way is always talking about it- unless you're in an abusive situation and know that you'll get hurt. If this is the case- when you get the chance- leave. Don't take anything, ask for a police escort to get your things later. You need to worry about the safety of yourself first.





This is your decision. Ask yourself these questions, though. Ask yourself if you're just feeling neglected- do the two of you just need to spend more time together? Or do you just need time away from each other? Either way, I wish you luck. Making decisions like these aren't easy. I hope you find the right advice for you.
1 Do it by any means possible its strategy or tactics take every possibility in your hands and manipulate yourself an exit... With lonliness #2 get rid of all things that depress you or make you feel lonely by doing the 1st step I gave you. I can be detailed because Idk your exact situation. and fear is a destroyer in any sense of the word.
you have to establish a relationship with a God first. then you can put yourself next. once you focus on loving you, you can walk away and know that God has your back. i have been where you are and it seems hard,but trust in God. he always has something better for you.
You need to be a more self sufficient person.
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